Sorry, statistically it’s not likely.
Do you think your relationship will last forever? Are you worried that it won’t?
There are many secrets to a happy, long-term relationship that happy couples won’t tell you. A forever marriage may seem like a lofty goal, but it is actually achievable and it isn’t rocket science!
We are going to reveal some of the well-kept secrets of happy couples in this article.
Some secrets might be a little unusual or even surprising!
Keeping a relationship alive for a long time, say for 50 years or more, may seem almost impossible these days because we don’t see it very often. But there is nothing more romantic than couples growing old together.
Married life isn’t always a bed of roses. All couples face obstacles along the way which they must overcome.
Couples that survive these obstacles and keep their marriage alive are those few rare happy couples.
It’s shocking how the divorce rate is increasing in America these days. Almost 50% of all marriages end up in a divorce.
So, what is the main reason why the divorce rate is so high? Please add your answer in the comment box below or post it on our Facebook page in the comment section.
Being in a long term relationship has many health and emotional benefits. There is also a sense of security, reliance, and trust that go along with it.
When you feel that you have met the right person, you certainly want the relationship to last forever. However, it is becoming more and more difficult today.
Keep reading for the five secrets of happy couples.
1. Don’t believe in the “soul mate” myth
I know several happy and old couples and I have also read some fascinating stories about how people fell in love, got married at an early age and stayed married forever.
How do people manage to keep in a long term relationship? Well, one of the reasons may be that they are so well matched that they are almost soul mates, right? Well, that’s actually wrong, according to Maria Fitzpatrick, author at Telegraph Magazine.
One of the more ridiculous myths about “true love” is the idea of the soul mate.
One of the biggest relationship mistakes that many people make is they believe that there is someone made just for him or her a “perfect match”, says Fitzpatrick.
The truth is, there are going to be differences between you and your partner. Most likely you will not have the same taste in fashion, movies, food, or even music.
If you and your partner are truly compatible, a good relationship is all about making life interesting despite all the differences. Experts believe that if you agree with your partner all the time, it’s more than likely your life is going to be pretty boring.
2. Respect each other
You may have your differences but constantly criticizing or humiliating each other is not healthy for your relationship. Sure, you are going to have arguments, but you should not let it drag too long.
You and your partner are entitled to your own opinions, own ways of thinking, and you both should respect each other’s differences. For example, she might like reading a book while you like watching football on TV with a beer.
You both should be allowed to do your own things and, most of all, respect each other’s opinions and choices.
Here is a funny quote that I saw somewhere, I don’t remember where, but I think it works here “Men: Respect your wife’s choices because you are one of them. “
3. Learn to have intriguing conversation
Have you forgotten your school or college days when you could just sit and talk about anything?
Well, you need to bring that back into your married life. When you can both talk at an intellectual level, exchanging views and opinions freely, it makes your relationship much more meaningful.
Women talk to connect while men talk to inform.
We all know that men and women communicate differently. When you learn communication skills, a lot of things will become much more meaningful to you both, and you can instantly have a great relationship.
4. Do things together
Ok, maybe your life is hectic and you often neglect your partner. Do you remember how you felt in the beginning of your relationship? Those are the most exciting times when couples fall in love.
Just being close to each other could be meaningful and satisfying.
Many women go to a ball game or fishing just to keep their men company, even if they don’t understand sports or fishing.
Men, why don’t you try to find out what her favorite soap is and watch it together? Well, it works. You could do anything together; compromising is healthy for you.
It is important to remember that you need to spend quality time together on a regular basis, or your relationship may fall apart.
5. Keep your love alive
Being romantic isn’t always a skill that you are born with.
Just like any other life skills, love and romance become better with practice. Use your imagination, try different things, and most importantly, think about what the other person likes and not just what you like.
When you brainstorm and figure out ways to please each other, love will almost instantly ignite in your life.
There are many simple romantic ideas that do not cost much but are sure to keep your love alive.
These could be as simple as sending an unexpected love poem as an SMS or planning a night out together.
Take advantage of special occasions, anniversaries and festivals to do something special for each other, and don’t forget to say those three magic words – “I love you” whenever you get a chance.
All these simple little things could bring excitement into your lives.
Your relationship will only last forever if you are both willing to work on your relationship together. A marriage is like an institution where both parties have to meet halfway. For a healthy relationship, love, trust and compatibility are the key elements, and there has to be a healthy balance.
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P.S: Hope you enjoyed reading these tips. Share these with your partner and let us know how they went. Also, if you have any romantic ideas of your own, add them in the comment box below.
Source: Balanced Life Team
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- Relationship Advice – 10 Mistakes To Avoid For A Better Relationship | Balanced Life Team
- Relationship advice: five experts reveal the secrets to long-term love – Telegraph
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- Dr. Phil.com – Advice – Marriage Survival Guide for Tough Times